Conquering Faults in Me!

When engaged in conversation – either with friends, during an interview – or when you do some soul-searching –, it often happens that our qualities and defaults are broached… This is a very instructive practice.

Qualities that do some good

Describing our qualities is something we willingly do most of the time. Either we talk for hours about them or we describe them in a more humble manner in order to avoid boasting. It is all a matter of character!

In fact, whether we do not dare talk about them, whether we tacitly speak about them or whether we extensively mention them (some people do so), we often derive some sort of pleasure.

Most people sometimes feel satisfied when they talk about themselves. Others become extremely loquacious and never stop mentioning themselves unless we stop them!
It is true that thinking about our qualities is a great exercise, one that enables us to take stock of who we are. Being well aware of our resources can help us regain self-confidence.

Shortcomings to know

However, when the time comes to mentioning shortcomings, many people change their attitude. What? Shortcomings? That is impossible!

Some are embarrassed and would like to talk about something else, some minimize them and some apologize for them!

By acting this way, they deprive themselves of a formidable reservoir of opportunities designed to change their life and improve. These shortcomings should not be rejected. Instead, they should be used.

Forge ahead in life thanks to your shortcomings!

Everybody has shortcomings, and that is a good thing! Just like a bird that needs both wings to fly, human beings need to rely on their qualities and shortcomings to progress and be successful.

They are indispensable! Doing without the potential of our shortcomings would amount to hoping that a bird may fly with just one wing!

It is important to know that but there is more: we need to make good use of our qualities but also of our shortcomings. I will not expand on qualities because it is easy. You just need to not overestimate them to take full advantage of them.

As for shortcomings, consider them with interest and do not reject them. They always reveal something important. Turn them into friends ready to help you and not enemies standing in your way.

Use your shortcomings to progress, either by doing the opposite of your shortcomings or by making sure you do not let them dominate you.

Life is not built in a Day

Taking a look at the past may influence your current life and even define the outline of your future. How is it possible? Let’s use a simple analogy.

The man and his house

A man is like a house that is being built step by step during a lifetime. Just like a house, he needs strong foundations. When they are strong, the walls can be built before the roof is constructed!

Constructing the roof before the walls or building walls on shaky foundations would not occur to anyone.

There is a time and place for everything…

The same goes for human beings. They need to shape their personality step by step and take things in the right order to avoid crumbling down someday, to know who they are, what their personality is and experience success and happiness.

The building of the foundations of a house can be compared to the shaping of a child’s personality. The construction of the walls corresponds to the consolidation of the character and the installation of the roof corresponds to the time when the age of reason is reached.

Once all the construction steps have been carried out, the state of the house needs to be regularly checked to make sure everything is in order, nothing is damaged and nothing is threatening to collapse.

Also, when someone has reached maturity, they need to use the experience they acquired during their childhood and adolescence to consolidate their life as an adult and serenely grow old!

 

A logical continuation: the past, the present and the future

As a result, a Man needs to use his past to build his present and foresee the future under the best conditions.

The events and hardships of the past and must be remembered so that the same mistakes are not made again because they will only lead to the same deadlocks. Ordeals are there to help you progress if you can learn lessons from them.

It is important to turn the past into the foundations of your life in order to build your personal house: your life. You always need to forge ahead.

Take advantage of the experience you acquired to avoid making the same mistakes and make use you of what you learned in the past to turn them to your advantage.

LOL-@-Self

It is said that laughing is part of Man and that it is essential to lead a successful life. Admittedly, everyone likes to laugh, have fun, and party but laughing can also turn into mockery.

Can we laugh about anything?

This is a question that is often asked: “can we laugh about anything?” And the answer is both yes and no.

We can laugh about anything since there is no limit to laughing and since everything can make us laugh or just smile.

The only limit is simple: when laughing becomes synonymous with demeaning, ridiculing, hurting, humiliating people… it goes beyond its very own limits.

Once these limits are set, limits that should be obvious furthermore, it is up to you to decide whether you can laugh at yourself and, therefore, do some self-analysis.

It is indeed easy to make fun of others but it is also a kind way of emphasizing something they should change in the way they talk or act. Everyone can do that.

Laugh at yourself

The hardest part is to laugh at yourself! This is not easy but so gratifying! I would even say that it is a sign of wisdom and humility.

Laughing at yourself is a way of not taking yourself seriously and looking on the bright side of life. This does not mean that you should make fun of your shortcomings but that you should put life and events into perspective, without thinking the world revolves around you.

Also, laughing at yourself consists in analyzing what is happening in a casual – not grave – way and making the most of this experience whether good or bad comes from it.

Laughing at yourself enables you to play down the significance of some situations and avoid attaching too much importance to things that are not significant so you can attach importance to those that really matter!

Good Magnet

Every one of us can alter the course of things

Most often, when men are to be blamed for these catastrophes, our sadness does not mainly come from the seriousness of the situation in question but rather from the cruelty some human beings show to their fellow human beings, animals and nature. Furthermore, we often feel powerless and come to the conclusion that there is nothing we can do to make things change.

But this is not true because we all – you too – have the power to create a better world even if your income is not high, if you live a humble life, and if you are not a president or a billionaire. Everybody can alter the course of things at their own level through their deeds, thoughts and fair, right and constructive words.

Making the world a better place is not a matter of money, luck or power… but of good will. Great men, who started from nothing, did great things when they adopted this state of mind. Even if their living conditions were – at the start – humble, their lives have been examples of humility, kindness and non-violence.

Avoid losing time and empty words that do not follow a positive direction. Under any circumstances, you should try to use the formidable power of positive thoughts to influence the world in a constructive manner.

You will naturally help those around you and you will help yourself by creating positive vibrations. These will draw to you everything you long for in every area, whether it concerns money, love, luck or the fulfilment of all your wishes. Good attracts Good like a magnet. 

Inner Treasures

Often, people’s misfortune does not stem from the fact that they do not have the qualities and abilities needed to succeed in life but from the fact that they do not know and/or exploit the assets that are real strengths.

Sometimes, people are going through a situation that is so difficult to deal with that they doubt themselves, become obsessed with their problems and think they are never lucky. They sometimes believe they are not capable of extricating themselves from their problems because they feel they are to blame for being bogged down in such a situation . They are convinced that either they are to blame or that it is due to their lacking the qualities needed to succeed in life.

And yet, even if we are going through a delicate phase, we have not lost our qualities for all that! When looking into the situation of those in trouble, it can often be noticed that they can’t extricate themselves from their situation because they focus on their weaknesses, not on their strengths. And, even when they know what their strengths are, they do not dare or know how to express and exploit them.

The first step to succeed is therefore not to feel guilty! Those who underestimate themselves just can’t act in the right way.

Let me repeat it: no matter how difficult someone’s life may be, they always possess inner aptitudes that could help them turn their lives into whatever they want it to be.

Everybody has their own assets, a level of intelligence, and expertise in some specific area. The best piece of advice I can provide you with is to discover your own inner treasures and to enhance them !

Mimicry of Life

imitationOne of the essential goals in life is to make your existence a success by improving yourself in all areas, and in doing good around you.

However, to make your life a success, you need examples to follow in order to know what you should and should not do.

All human beings function through mimicry, or imitating others. From childhood to old-age, all is mimicry, since no-one lives isolated from everyone else.

You take your first steps unconsciously imitating those around you.

The best proof is children raised by wolves, who often walk on all-fours and must learn to walk on their two legs later on. They also need to learn to eat with a knife and fork, etc. Everything in life is mimicry.

And the same applies to psychology and behaviour. Although each person possesses their own personality, it is often constructed through mimicry and/or opposition to people you see every day, like your parents or grandparents when you’re young.

Sometimes, without knowing it, you copy certain habits and mannerisms, certain behaviours of relatives, either close or distant.

Mimicry is not a bad thing. You can and should reproduce a behaviour if it enables you to improve yourself.

For that to happen, every one of us needs to look up, not down. Successful people’s behaviour is a model, because it can provide you with constructive advice.

Are You Crazy?

When you grow up you tend to get told the world is the way it is and your life is just to live your life inside the world. Try not to bash into the walls too much. Try to have a nice family life, have fun, save a little money.

That’s a very limited life. Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact, and that is – everything around you that you call life, was made up by people that were no smarter than you. And you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own things that other people can use.

The minute that you understand that you can poke life and actually something will, you know if you push in, something will pop out the other side, that you can change it, you can mold it. That’s maybe the most important thing. It’s to shake off this erroneous notion that life is there and you’re just gonna live in it, versus embrace it, change it, improve it, make your mark upon it.

I think that’s very important and however you learn that, once you learn it, you’ll want to change life and make it better, cause it’s kind of messed up, in a lot of ways. Once you learn that, you’ll never be the same again.

Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They invent. They imagine. They heal. They explore. They create. They inspire. They push the human race forward. Maybe they have to be crazy.How else can you stare at an empty canvas and see a work of art? Or sit in silence and hear a song that’s never been written? Or gaze at a red planet and see a laboratory on wheels? We make tools for these kinds of people. While some see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.

–Apple Inc.

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